Thursday, 31 March 2016

Autism Acceptance Month Post 1- Autistic Awesomeness



It’s Autism Awareness Acceptance Month.  Many autistic people dread this time of year.  It is full of stereotypes and fear-mongering about autism and autistic people.  Light It Up Blue was started by the hated organization, Autism Speaks to bring awareness that autism affects mostly boys (stereotypically along with the stereotypical colour blue for boys).  From their site: "What does the color blue have to do with the autism spectrum? The answer is that Autism Spectrum Disorders are almost 5 times more common among boys (1 in 54) than among girls (1 in 252). So, the color blue represents the boys diagnosed with autism."  Not only do they hate autistic people but they also discriminate against female autistics.   Doesn’t autism affect girls?  Of course it does, but I think one of the big reasons it is under diagnosed in girls/women is that many doctors and other people believe that it is only boys who are autistic and there are also different social expectations of girls.  The number of girls/women being diagnosed seems to be catching up though as more people gain knowledge and understanding.

Is an awareness day really necessary?  I don’t think so, most people are aware that autism exists and that has done nothing to help us.  It has not brought more supports or understanding.  Acceptance Day/Month is still necessary, although one day, if we are ever fully accepted and included, then even that will not be needed, other than to acknowledge the struggles of those in past generations who worked for change to make acceptance a thing.  

How do we get to a place of true acceptance of all autistic people?  It is hard for some parents to hear about acceptance.  Many of them think that it is only speaking adults who need little support who are calling for this.  That is not the case.  There are autistic people ranging from completely non-speaking individuals who need full time support to speaking individuals who need much less support calling for this.  Non-speaking does not mean not able to communicate.  There are many forms of AAC, so if an autistic person in your life needs a communication aid, keep searching until you can find what works for them.  Needing full support does not mean someone is incapable of accomplishing things.  So it is not just those of us who are able to speak (in my case part-time) and need less support asking for acceptance.  Amy Sequenzia is a non-speaking, multiply disabled autistic activist and she has written about acceptance here and here.  
 
To me, autistic person, means anyone who is autistic.  Not exclusively those who speak or don’t speak or those who need little support or a lot.  Autistic includes all of us with the diagnosis. 
Why should autistic people be accepted?  Why not?  We are just as human as the next person and deserve no more or no less than them.  Wouldn't it be nice to just be able to be yourself without constantly putting on an act (if you even have that ability)?  To not have to pretend to be someone else just so you can be accepted?  What is wrong with being different?  Different is good.  Different makes things interesting.  The world would be very boring if we were all the same.  I think there would be a lot less anxiety and depression in the autistic population if we could be ourselves and be accepted for who we are without non-autistic people telling us we are always doing things wrong.

They have sensory friendly days at movie theatres, but have you ever noticed that it is almost always a kids movie?  What about having all of the movies sensory friendly, once or twice a week so all autistic people can attend and we can choose a movie we want to see.  How about not finding it unusual to see someone shopping with sunglasses and noise blocking earmuffs?  What about encouraging all forms of communication?  And what about stimming?  Sometimes autistics do it for fun, for relaxation, and sometimes for calming themselves.  Why can’t these things be accepted and not feared or seen as ‘abnormal’.  There must also be some non-autistic adults who just want to be free to jump up and down, spin, or flap.  Of course that is not ‘adult-like’, not ‘normal’ (sarcasm) so it must be stamped out of autistic people.  But why?  Who is it harming?  If no one is being harmed then let it be.  Stimming is healthy and fun and can help keep someone calmer when they are stressed.

Autism Acceptance Month is about celebrating autistic awesomeness.  It is not about autism awareness and how we are such a burden and shouldn’t exist.  It is about celebrating who we are and our about autistic pride.  Let us be the people we were born to be.
#autismawarenessdayandmonth2016 
photo says celebrate autistic awesomeness (with rainbow colours)


I am going to add a video of me being slightly more myself.  Not hiding as much of my 'autisticness'.  I don't usually intentionally hide the way I am but that is the way I was brought up--Hide the differences. In the video, I am practicing singing the song Top of the World by the Carpenters.  There is karaoke music that I use.  I will post the lyrics below the video because it is not captioned.  


Carpenters – Top Of The World Lyrics

Such a feeling is coming over me
There is wonder in 'most everything I see
Not a cloud in the sky, got the sun in my eyes
And I won't be surprised if it's a dream

Everything I want the world to be
Is now coming true especially for me
And the reason is clear, it's because you are here
You're the nearest thing to heaven that I've seen

I'm on the top of the world looking down on creation
And the only explanation I can find
Is the love that I've found ever since you've been around
Your love's put me at the top of the world

Something in the wind has learned my name
And it's telling me that things are not the same
In the leaves on the trees and the touch of the breeze
There's a pleasing sense of happiness for me

There is only one wish on my mind
When this day is through I hope that I will find
That tomorrow will be just the same for you and me
All I need will be mine if you are here

I'm on the top of the world looking down on creation
And the only explanation I can find
Is the love that I've found ever since you've been around
Your love's put me at the top of the world

I'm on the top of the world looking down on creation
And the only explanation I can find
Is the love that I've found ever since you've been around
Your love's put me at the top of the world
Songwriters: CARPENTER, RICHARD LYNN / BETTIS, JOHN
Top Of The World lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group